A Lighter Edition of Shades of Grey: Safe, Kinky Moves to Hop Into BDSM
Purely vanilla couples want to know what all the buzz is about now that BDSM has reached its pinnacle level of popularity in the media. For one, it’s about sex enhancement pills. Next, it’s about BDSM. Even Fifty Shades of Grey can make trying out blindfolds and bondage seem a little frightening, but with a little time and care, anyone can enjoyably and securely try out kinky sex.
It is best to start with some fundamental BDSM motions that increase sensation if you are new to using toys and accessories to dominate and stimulate. These basic BDSM ideas are a fun and simple way to spice up your sex routine. Just keep in mind the Golden Rule of kinky sex: always discuss your plans and obtain your partner’s permission before doing anything.
Sensory Deprivation
A seductive technique to start foreplay is by gently surprising your lover. Ask your companion to lie down on the bed or take a seat in a cozy chair. Cover your partner’s eyes with a silky blindfold or a soft piece of clothing, such as a bandana, necktie, or lightweight scarf, and softly fasten the material behind their head. Your other four senses will be more acute after losing sight, making everything you eat, touch, smell, or hear feel more intense. Imagine how delicious a strawberry wrapped in whip cream will taste, or how much a tickling feather will tickle your spouse who is wearing blindfolds.
Introduce the blindfold to people new to sensory deprivation without any wrist or ankle restrictions. Asking your spouse to express their feelings aloud during each kiss, tickle, and touch will help ease them into the darkness.
Spanking With Some Twists
Spanking is a mainstay of the BDSM and is misunderstood frequently. Start with the cute, ribbon-adorned beat crop rather than the bulky leather floggers that should be left in the dungeon. The main purpose of being spanked is to enhance blood flow to specific body parts, which makes you more sensitive to your partner’s touch. If you catch yourself connecting spanking with pain, do this simple experiment. Take your pick from a seductive item like the tickle feather or a simple hairbrush from the bathroom. When you run a feather or brush over your hands, pay attention to how it feels. Clap your hands a few times now, not painfully, but forcefully enough that your palms begin to blush. Use the hairbrush to gently scratch or immediately brush the feather over one of your palms.
Sensations of Hot Suction
Similar to spanking, applying light suction on erogenous parts like the clitoris or nipples causes blood to pool on the skin’s surface, increasing sensitivity and intensifying orgasms. For a few minutes at a time, use a pair of nipple suction toys. Remove the suction and give your sweetheart a lengthy, tender kiss or a warm lick on the inflated nipples or vulva. Then gradually increase the amount of sucking pressure to 5 to 10 minutes.
They will feel more when you switch from the toy to your lips the longer you leave them on. Mix suction toys with a little light bondage, a blindfold, and amazing oral sex when you’re both ready for the next level. The best thing about BDSM—and sex in general—is that you are completely free to turn the heat up or dial it back to the level of intensity that suits you. As you both go from vanilla to kink, always start softly and keep your spouse informed. When will you discover your next favorite bedroom activity?